the lost man chronicles
book two: the art of love

we are all grandstanding (when it comes to love)

The only ones who can tell the whole truth and nothing but, have yet to mature enough to thwart it completely.

In terms of amorous affairs, unless one is not fully endowed with all that is necessary to manifest mutual consent, it is highly unlikely that anything but the relative or truncated truth will be divulged initially. Only the naïve are brave enough not to deceive in order to avoid rejection.

For once one knows the pain, the pangs, the unjust suffering of all the differences between our time-honed preferences and idiosyncratic predilections, we realize that perfection of the persona is best preserved by keeping all the parts of truth—apart.

Selective renderings, omission, accentuation, obfuscation, charming allusions to bemuse and bewitch, and of course the old switch-a-roo, for all those who one day discover they are not Dorian Gray, are all tritely amusing tactics that say the same thing—we are human and we yearn alike. Thus, we are willing to compromise our standards by paying admission into the tunnel-of-love with half-truths, white lies, double-standards, and alas, for some (sigh) hypocrisy.

In one way or another all of the knowing among us have dared and shared the experience of when perceptions, expectations, schemes, wants, desires and dreams have all differed all-too significantly either immediately or almost always, eventually, from those of the intended subjects of our eager affection.

So, have a heart, and don't start a fight unnecessarily. Should the prospective object of your fond regard contradict himself, sigh yourself into a graceful understanding. For we are all grandstanding when it comes to love.


Jesus went unto the mount of Olives.

And early in the morning he came again into the temple, and all the people came unto him; and he sat down, and taught them.

And the scribes and Pharisees brought unto him an adulterous woman; and when they had set her in his midst, they said unto him, Master, this woman was taken in adultery, in the very act. Now, the law of Moses commands us, that such should be stoned, but what sayest thou?

This they said, tempting him, so they might have the chance to accuse him. But Jesus stooped down, and with his finger wrote on the ground, as though he heard them not.

So when they continued asking him, he arose, and said unto them, "He that is without sin among you, let him cast the first stone."

And again he stooped down, and wrote on the ground.

And they which heard him, being convicted by their own conscience, went out one by one, beginning with the eldest, unto the last. And thus Jesus was left alone, with the woman standing in the midst.

~ John 8:1-9

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